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I still can’t shake this broadly spread narcissism that covers the country. I truly need some help understanding how a malignant narcissist was able to take control of a political party he wasn’t affiliated with most of his life and essentially turned 35% of it into a cult. So my question is about the people who know better, the political leaders of said party who publicly support all this. Are they narcissistic too? What else would cause responsible representatives, senators, businessmen who had in the past spotted and called out the narcissistic behavior but now turns a blind eye or actively supports it? I think back to when Barry Goldwater led a delegation to the WH to advise Nixon to resign as he and his staffers broke the law and the public’s trust.

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The podcast segment for those who missed it.

https://samray.substack.com/p/how-did-trump-steal-the-gop-and-turn#details

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Did you get a chance to read trumpism is Narcissism again? Personally, I think it answers most of those questions, but if you did and it didn't for you, I'll need to find other ways. Definitely not a short answer question though ; ) Likely an article but I will try to address it on the pod. https://samray.substack.com/p/trumpism-is-narcissism

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Yes, it does answer most of my query and lays the foundation of all the Trumpy narcissists. I still have a problem understanding why many of these people who went over to Trumpism, did not have a seemingly obvious history of narcissism. I do think you cover some of this: opportunism, power, wealth and for many to remain relevant. Simply, no moral center.

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How do you effectively deal with a narcissistic coworker/boss?

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That's a good one. What level of narcissistic? A microcosmic example or two would be very helpful in providing a less broad answer.

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Let's go with a malignant narcissistic boss giving you a hard time which is endangering your ability to keep your job.

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I think I got a good general idea how to answer now so no worries on providing any more info if you would prefer not to.

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I've not encountered this particular problem, thankfully, but others have. Knowing how to deal with a problem I could encounter in the future seems like the prudent thing to do.

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Good for you. A main theme of CNI is to be strategically proactive to avoid the mess you are forced to be reactive to.

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I'm nothing if not practical. Lol. Fore warned is fore armed.

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Ouch. Do most others he is the "boss" of feel the same? Is this personality type the norm in your industry or are they just hiding behind the illusion of being a strong leader to the higher ups/those who can fire him? Can he be fired or mostly untouchable?

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I'm asking for future reference. I'm sure other people have encountered this problem and have no clue how to deal with it. My daughter is a narcissist but dealing with her is easier than if a future boss or coworker is one. I can ignore her and keep my distance. That wouldn't work at work. Lol.

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