Why Narcissists Start Unwinnable Wars - Part I

A future requires global psychological defenses.

From a Counter-Narcissist Perspective, the question is not, “Why would someone start an unwinnable war?” It is “Which kind of disordered mind are we dealing with?”

This point of view is backed by empirical psychology in combination with CNI’s philosophy, because together they answer the questions clearly and straightforwardly.

The answers

“Some ‘leaders’ are malignant narcissists, sociopaths, or psychopaths who by definition are organized around their own greed, power, primal fears, and compulsions of domination, 100% of the time.

Such a permanent mental status translates into someone who consistently acts in mind-blowingly tone-deaf, arrogant, conscienceless, and insane ways, such as starting unwinnable wars.

On the positive side, we are increasingly hearing the media ask more “narcissist” questions. On the negative side, outside of the usual suspects, after the news segment ends, the guns fall silent, and the disordered angles fade away once again.

Therefore, it seems important for CNI to provide foundation for why toxic predators commit such foolish acts. Ideally, we all inspire our global leaders to recognize that national defense must include psychological protection because only our survival depends on it.

The most common path to an unwinnable war

Take a wild guess what kind of government toxic predators dream of. You guessed it, they want an authoritarian oligarchy in which the narcissist and everyone who pays them are above the law. That way, the wealthy ones can do whatever they compulsively crave because their every whim has a price tag. If they need a distraction, what’s better than a war?

Sound unbelievable? Statistically, there are likely at least 100 million of these malignant types around the world who are compulsively trying to gain wealth, power, and domination by spreading lies, hate, fear, division, or any other societal poisons that serve them at any given moment. Sound familiar?

The key shared trait

If malignant narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths have one critical trait in common, it is that they are only capable or interested in viewing reality through their own personal self-serving lens. It is this primal perspective that causes them to bend reality to whatever narrative they need it to be to acquire their next ego fix.

To such pathological predators, every good cause is worthless because they see no personal gain and have no capacity to value anyone but themselves, as covered in CNI’s “Transactional is Psychological Manipulation.”

Imagine an epstein class of malignant narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths with most of the wealth in the world who are moving towards most of the power by buying or blackmailing other narcissists. Oh, wait!

Even without the blackmail, toxic predators never consider anyone else unless it is someone or something they fear or a consequence they want to avoid. This dynamic is why fear and exposure are often key parts of any firm barrier that stops a narcissist.

From a distorted point of view

Because of their developmental brain limits and/or massive psychological trauma, narcissists need to see reality in a self-serving predetermined way. While this defense mechanism protects their fragile egos and non-fully functional minds, it is also a main reason why their decision-making always has a disordered bias.

With such clinical disorders manifesting in maladaptive compulsions, their questions in almost every instance, moment, and situation are things like, “How do I win and dominate? What do I have to say or do to get what I want? Does this move grow, maintain, or restore my wealth, power, and image? Will anyone stop me?”

Ergo, they don’t evaluate people, places, or potential wars the way a healthy mind does. They don’t care what truth, facts, or reality says. Sadly, despite usually appearing “normal,” due to their non-fully functioning brain and/or mind-rewiring trauma, they are only mentally capable of perceiving the world in terms of what serves them, protects them, or fills their hollowness.

Essentially, their view of reality consistently starts off with a self-serving conclusion of need, and then they take any shameless, toxic, or exhausting actions to alter reality to fit their goal.

Where reality distortion fields come from

It would appear compulsive behaviors are how and why narcissists create reality distortion fields. They can’t help themselves, they need to believe their self-glorifying fabrications, and they need others to believe them too, hence a reality distortion field is born.

That means if they need something to be true, it is, and they will do everything in their conscienceless powers to defend their made-up truths, such as constantly doubling down, because living in actual reality is more than they can bear. Obviously, producing a few results to claim their genius, extreme wealth, or having the ability to sell their delusions as successes are key factors in how far they can go.

Regardless, their need to believe their own lies is why any fact, truth, or information that challenges their fictional mind palace is instantly dismissed or attacked. On the opposite end of the spectrum, anyone who supports their delusions and predatory nature is quoted and promoted, aka narcissists of a feather flock together.

Over a lifetime, they create echo chambers and distortion fields that reinforce their pathological lies, convincing themselves that they are perfect, can’t lose, or ever even make a mistake.

The trick is that a narcissist’s absolute belief in what they promote comes from a need to believe and almost never from what is. It doesn’t matter if all evidence points to the opposite conclusion. A black heart wants what a black heart wants.

However, it would seem that this inability to psychologically handle any truth that goes against them is both why they must create reality distortion fields and what is their ultimate weakness.

In Part II, we will further cover why these narcissists are so fragile, further introduce the narcissist’s escalation trap, and formally introduce two new prime firm barrier examples, which will help us better understand how to use a narcissist’s ultimate weaknesses against them for the good of civil societies.